Yesterday while I was writing the post with regards to how life was like during our 2 ½ year journey through cancer, I received the following email from Supersibs. Supersibs is a wonderful organization that acknowledges siblings of pediatric cancer patients. They offer love and support to the brothers and sisters whose lives are dramatically affected and ever changed by cancer.
Here is what they have to say about the movie…

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While the movie, My Sister’s Keeper, is “fiction” – many aspects of what is depicted on screen is “real life” for a child battling cancer, the parents fighting for their child’s life, and the brothers and sisters who are trying to survive in the frightening shadows of pediatric cancer.

I would like to caution you, as our SuperSibs! families, regarding the decision to see My Sister’s Keeper. This film will likely be very, very difficult to see, as many elements similar to your family’s cancer journey are played out on the big screen. We are pleased that Warner Brothers offered SuperSibs! the opportunity to participate with advance screenings of the film, and we are grateful for the wonderful encouragement from author Jodi Picoult.

While we appreciate that others should see this film, we do not recommend it for SuperSibs! families. If you or others you know do decide to see this movie — please take the PG-13 rating into account, as this is not a film for children. And as always, please don’t hesitate to reach out to your support community, should you need to at any time.

After I read what Supersibs had to say about the movie, I decided that I needed to go and see it. If the general public is supposedly being educated on pediatric cancer and what that journey is like, I wanted to see for myself how the movie was portrayed.

Luckily I was already in the cancer mindset because of Adelaine’s anniversary of it, which happens to fall one day before mine and Doug’s wedding anniversary. So what did we do last night to celebrate our special union? Dinner and movie. Not just any movie, but a movie about pediatric cancer. What a party!!!!!!!

After walking (or crawling on my knees really) down the road of cancer, I sat down with my husband, along with my Slirpy to watch the movie. My main goal was just to make it through the movie, so I sucked it up with a fist full of napkins and watched as Hollywood
unfolded the story of what our family and so many others that we’ve met along the way had endured.

Going into the movie, I really didn’t know much about the story other than it was about a girl whose sister had cancer. I didn’t realize that the sister was going to have Leukemia! I would like to point out that her Leukemia was not ALL which was the type Adelaine had. Also the guy in the movie had AML Leukemia which is also not the exact type of Leukemia. The only unfortunate thing about the movie that I could see is that God was completely left out it (which is typical of Hollywood).

In order to actually sit through the movie, I couldn’t process it in its entirety during the movie. I filed the information and events away in my head and spent the entire night pealing each event off layer by layer. It was tough to see, but all in all as a critic who’s walked the journey,

I MUST SAY THEY HIT IT LIKE A NAIL BEING STRUCK WITH A HAMMER WITH SUCH PERCISION THAT THE NAIL WAS DRIVEN ALL THE WAY IN ON THE FIRST TRY!

Yes, it was that accurate!

After watching the movie, I told Doug that people are going to think that I wrote my post about Adelaine AFTER I saw the movie, which I assure you is NOT the case!

After we left the theater, I asked Doug what he thought of the movie. He said, “I think Adelaine should sleep in bed with us tonight! Just before Doug and I were falling asleep, I said, “Are you going to go get Adelaine or am I?” He said something to the effect that she would probably sleep better in her own bed and … but then he went and got her!

During cancer Adelaine spent many nights in our bed, especially just before she was diagnosed because she was so sick from the “flu”. Then because I was afraid she might die before morning quite honestly. Sometimes I just wanted to have her close in case she needed me, in case she spiked a fever during the night and needed to go to the hospital. I spent many sleepless nights worrying over her, tying to make her comfortable. My soul was crushed over the possibility of loosing her. My heart hurt so deeply because of the unknown, so we’d place her in our bed and having her there helped us sleep a little better. There were also times that we’d place her there just watch her sleep, feel her skin, smell her hair and celebrate that she is still here with us. Last night was one of those occasions, knowing that she is alive and well. It felt so nice to have her beside us after watching the movie unfold.

I felt very alone especially during those first 9 months of treatment. I knew there was no way that people could understand what our lives were like – how scary and painful it all was. Nor did I invite people into our home to see it either. Each family that goes through something like this has there own private suffering that happens behind closed doors. I think Hollywood did an excellent job of allowing people in to see and feel some of what we felt.

To those who have not been directly effected by pediatric cancer (because it may be too painful), my recommendation is GO SEE THE MOVIE!

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